Sally LeBoy, MFT

Lic.# 14768

591 Camino de la Reina, Suite 918 San Diego, CA 92108

Email: [email protected]

Office Phone: (619) 685-5975

Website : http://www.sallyleboymft.net

Hours of Operation:
By Appointment Only

Payment Options
Cash


Welcome to Sally LeBoy | Mariage Family Therapist

Comprehensive, High Quality, Affordable Counseling Services in San Diego.

I offer a wide range of mental health services in a comfortable, private setting

I am committed to helping you find the solutions you need to live a richer, more satisfying life Everyone experiences occasional difficulty in coping. Difficulties may be related to family or relationship issues, employment stress, anxiety, depression, self-esteem, substance abuse or unresolved problems from the past.

I offer a wide range of services to help you through these, and other, difficulties. I believe that crisis can provide an opportunity for growth. My goal is to facilitate change that results in permanent solutions leading to enhanced effectiveness in all aspects of your life.

New couple’s workshops are forming. To get more information, call Sally LeBoy at (619) 685-5975 or click on the contact button and leave me a message.

Communication can make or break a relationship. Conflict is a given in any relationship. Knowing how to communicate when there is conflict is a skill that will really assist in creating and supporting intimate relationships. This is a really good newsletter and I hope you all get a lot out of it. Happy Thanksgiving!

Comprehensive, High Quality, Affordable Counseling



About Us

I am a licensed Marriage and Family therapist, practicing in San Diego County for over 25 years.

During this time, I have developed a particular expertise and reputation for working with relationship issues. Being in an intimate relationship is probably life’s greatest challenge. Creating a partnership, having children, and retaining a focus on your own personal growth and needs requires a juggling act that most will undertake, but not easily!

The drive towards intimacy (relationship) must coexist and hopefully flourish with the equally powerful drive towards self-fulfillment. I have spent the greater part of my professional life addressing this paradox. Relationship satisfaction is key to a healthy life. Let me help you reach your full relationship potential.

In addition to relationship issues, I work with individuals and groups with problems of anxiety, depression, stress, and life transitions. I am a proactive therapist with an emphasis on finding solutions.


Services Provided

Couples
Pre-Marital Counseling
Families
Step-Families
Depression
Anxiety
Individuals
Intimacy
Mediation

Pre-marital counseling package:
5 session for $500., a 40% savings. Be proactive! Begin your marriage with the skills you need to make it work. Contact Sally today to get started.


Resume

Education:

M.S. Counseling & Psychology, California State University, Hayward, Hayward, California, 1978
A.B. Psychology, University of California Berkeley, Berkeley, California, 1973

License:

Clinical license from the State of California
(license #MFT14768) – 1980

Professional Experience / Certifications:

Private practice individual, marriage, and family therapy
1983 – Current
Private practice divorce mediation
1992 – Current
Adjunct Professor, graduate school of Marriage & Family Therapy at United States International University (San Diego) -
1984 – 1992
Adjunct Professor, Alliant International University (San Diego) 1997 – Current
Approved Supervisor by the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists
1997 – Current

Training:

AAMFT Approved Supervisor Training
1995 – 1996
Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR) – 1993
Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR) Advanced – 1995
Divorce Mediation Training – 1992

Professional Memberships:

American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT) – 1987 – Current
California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT) – 1987 – Current
San Diego Chapter of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (SDCAMFT) – 1987 – Current

Other Professional Activity:
Member: Board of Directors of CAMFT
2006 – Current
Reviewer: Journal of Systemic Therapies
2006 – Current

Publications:

“Incest Families: Integrating Theory and Practice”, Family Dynamics of Addiction Quarterly, September 1991, Vol. 1. No 3, Pg. 21-30


Counselors Corner

A Bitter Taste of My Own Medicine

Last week I found myself having to swallow some of my own medicine. I didn’t like it, but it reminded me how hard it is to manage oneself. I’d gotten into a major disagreement with my trainer, a man I’ve been friends with for at least 10 years. I really like him. It’s always been a smooth relationship between us, so the fight took me by surprise. Him, too, I’m sure. Why we fought doesn’t really matter, but we really didn’t speak for about a week and there was a lot of tension between us.

I really wanted him to understand my position. I was willing to listen to his position, too. But the more I imagined the conversation, the less optimistic I felt about reaching a positive resolution. I was pretty certain that we just had a really different perspective on this situation, and worse, I didn’t think that our memories of events would coincide. The memory thing happens a lot, especially in fights. Everyone’s heated up in fights and the chemicals that get released in the brain tend to block accurate recall. That’s why eye witness testimony is so unreliable in court cases. So what would our “talk” accomplish? We might reach a mutual understanding. But more likely, we’d both get stirred up over something that we really just don’t agree on. I decided to soothe my own emotional reactivity and just let it go.

The big question is when is this a mature strategy for handling conflict and when is it just a conflict-avoiding cop-out? Some things about relationships: There have to be bottom lines. There are some issues that you shouldn’t compromise on. These are issues that violate your moral or ethical standards; issues that compromise your integrity. No relationship is worth becoming less of who you are. Most issues don’t fall into this category. They are just the result of differences in thinking or feeling. People have differences about what they think is important and then about what is the best course of action to take. For most people, these differences don’t matter a lot until they come up with people you are involved with- close friends, children, partners. Then it becomes a much bigger deal, even scary.

In general, I think relationships require communication, because that’s how we learn about each other, and that knowledge will ultimately increase intimacy. But communication doesn’t necessarily lead to agreement or compliance. This lack of agreement can be highly unsatisfying (as it was for me with my trainer). It doesn’t feel good; it can actually feel lonely to find that your views, while understood are not shared. Some people become afraid of differences, feeling that they might signify that something is wrong with the relationship. I think differences are inherent in all relationships, and getting comfortable with that is a good idea.

So stand-up and define yourself. Say what you think, feel, need, but allow for the complex reality that your partner or friend may have a different point of view. Respectful disagreement is essential, but self-soothing the frustration that comes with a lack of agreement is a skill everyone needs to learn.